If answering ‘yes’ to these questions are the prequalifications for good mothers, then I am second-rate at best.
Once, my sister-in-law asked me (before I went on an overnighter with my husband sans kids) if it was hard for me to leave my babies for the night? I answered: “Nope, easiest decision I ever made.”
Whilst in Utah without my kids or husband, I held my eight month old niece so my sister-in-law could eat her dinner. Upon doing so, someone said, “Oh, looks like Jami is missing her babies”. I then replied, “nope, not really. I just know how hard it is to eat dinner when you’ve got an eight month old to manage at the same time.”
Now, that isn’t to say I don’t think about them and love them while I’m gone. Because I do. I miss the always obedient and non tantrum version of them. But generally speaking, I love people better when I get to be away from them every now and then.
Many years ago I traveled with a group of friend and acquaintances on a church history tour. We were together 24 hours a day for three weeks straight….I did not like those people after about four days. (I like them now though, since I’ve had a little bit of time away from them J)
So, when I returned home from Utah and my husband said, "I missed you and love you, but what I really love and missed is your help.” I knew it really was true love :)