Monday, January 23, 2012
I think one of the hardest things about moving is making new friends. Something even harder than that? Making friends with other couples. Is this just me? Or do other people struggle with this? Maybe this is where I find out that no one else has problems making friends and I'm just awkward, and now it's 7th grade all over again. Over the years, my husband and I have made some fantastic couple friends. However, it usually takes a few weirdos before we find a couple we both like. If I like the woman, he usually thinks the guy is a pansy. If he thinks the guy is cool, I usually find the wife a total bore. It is hard to find two people that match just right. Every time I set up a dinner, or a get together with someone new, my husband asks me two questions..."Does he know anything about sports? Does he wear fancier clothes than his wife?". Usually, that is enough for him to get along with the guy.
I love the times when we meet a new couple and we all hit it off right away. No awkward silences, no boring political talk, and no over-sharing. But what are you supposed to do when you thought you liked a couple and then you both end up not liking them. Are you supposed to just be nice and pretend to be their friends? Do you break-up with them? Do you just think of excuses why you can't hang out anymore? (Personally, I like the last option.)
Once, a few years ago, a girl I worked with asked us to go to a movie with her and her husband and a few of their friends. I really got along with her, so I thought we would all have a good time. The morning of the movie, she walked into my office and said, "Hey! So, my husband asked if we could go out with you guys another night. He would like to get to know both of you before we introduce you to our other friends, just in case it doesn't work out with us." How was that for straight forward? I guess some people really take making friends a little more seriously than I do. Needless to say, we never got around to that double date.
Once you are married, does the dating process continue...just in couples? If so, I would rather just stay home. I had enough dating.