So why in the world was I surprised speechless to learn of "push presents?"
Never heard of them? They are the gifts women get from their spouse upon delivering their bundle of joy--also called "baby bauble."According to one article push can have two connotations:
“Push” as in, “I the mother, having been through the wringer and pushed out this blessed event, hereby claim my reward.” Or “push” as in, “I’ve delivered something special and now I’m pushing you, my husband/boyfriend, to follow suit.”
It's not that I was surprised to hear that gifts were given (how nice and thoughtful), but surprised to hear the percentages of women who expect them (I'll spare you from my entitlement speech). One survey done by BabyCenter a few years ago found that 38% of women received pushed presents and 55% wanted one (again, who doesn't enjoy some recognition).
I can't help but think of what Eliza R. Snow said as quoted here by Julie B. Beck:
"Women should be women and not babies that need petting and correction all the time. I know we like to be appreciated but if we do not get all the appreciation which we think is our due, what matters?"The standard seems to be lavish jewelry (firmly supported by a quick Google images search), as promoted in this ad for diamond earrings “She delivered your first born; now give her twins.” However, I would much rather have a homemade coupon book of things like:
- I will attempt to learn how to change diapers
- I will not ask "what is for dinner" any night this week
- I will wash all of the lasagna pans from thoughtful neighbors